Let's talk about this for a second. Your partner is not your property and shouldn't be treated like it. Having someone to share your daily life with is a privilege, meaning you don't get one just because you think you deserve one. So when you do get one, let's treat them right. I'm not saying my relationship is perfect, no one's is. And maybe when you read this, somewhere down the line we might not even be together anymore. But I can guarantee you that won't be because we didn't try to make things work. This will be my first lesson on how to keep things going, so pay attention. First things first, don't take your partner for granted because anything they can do you can do. So do it when you can. This means cleaning up after yourselves, cooking for each other, paying for things, etc. It's not up to one of you to do something all the time, so switch it up. I can't remember a time when I paid for a meal twice in a row when she had the money too.
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Second, lets not kid each other. We're all different. No matter how alike you think you two are, there are somethings that your going to do differently and that's okay. So when one of these situations comes up where you think your way is right and there's is wrong, don't bully them until they give in. For example, my girlfriend is a vegetarian and I am not. Now she could yell at me and tell me meat is murder until I turn vegetarian. But she doesn't, and I don't make a fuss when I go over and she cooks vegetarian dishes for me. Compromise is key at all points of the relationship, if you can't compromise now when she wants to take a million pictures of her cute bow rings that she made for you that also really hurt, then will you ever?
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And the last lesson for today is, don't make things hard. Let your partner do what they want. They're their own person, you shouldn't have any control over them. Don't be controlling and all knowing because sometimes the little things that you try to control build up. If their tired and sleeping on the couch when you're together, don't wake them up and annoy them. When they want to take the long way because it means spending a little more time together, don't say no.
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And most importantly, don't treat your partner like they're anything less then an extension of you. Look at how you treat them and ask yourself, "Would you treat yourself this way?" If the answer is no, if you're unhappy, if going to see them feels more like a chore than fun, it's time to work on the relationship or break up.
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